The Relationship among Similarity of Couple s Value, Communication Pattern and Marital Quality

Abstract

Abstract: The relationship between couple similarity and marital quality has been one of focus topics in the research area of marital adjustment. Many studies found the more similar the couple are, the happier they are. But, some studies got different results, and some theories put forward to complementarity theory. In addition, few studies explored the mechanism of effects of couple similarity on marital quality. In order to explore the relationship among similarity of couple s value, communication pattern, and marital Quality, 132 husbands and wives from Macau, China were selected to fill Schwartz Value Survey, Communication Pattern Questionnaire revised by Christensen et al. in 1996, and Sullaways Dyadic Adjustment Scale independently. T-test, intraclass correlation and structure model analysis were used in data analysis, it was found the couples were similar on value of security, tradition, universalism, self-direction, hedonism,but the degree of similarity were not very high; the couple were different on some values, the husbands valued power and achievement significant more than the wives; the real couples were significantly more similar than random matched couples on all values; the husbands reported more negative communication than their wives, especially on mutual withdraw communication; the marital quality reported by husbands were better than that reported by wives, especially on marital satisfaction and emotional expression; the study also found the more similar the couple were, the happier they were, but communication was an important mediator of their relationship. It was concluded the couple selection might be explained by both similarity theory and complementarity theory, and communication should be the foundation of couple relationship.

Key words: couple similarity, value, couple selection, communication pattern, marital quality

摘要： 夫妻相似性和婚姻质量的关系一直是婚姻适应研究领域关注的重要课题，然而至今并没有得到一致的结论，而且两者间的作用机制也没有得到充分探讨。为此，从澳门选取132对夫妻，采用夫妻独立作答的方式，对他们的价值观，沟通模式和婚姻适应进行测查，以探讨夫妻价值观的相似性和差异，以及沟通在夫妻价值观相似性和婚姻质量两者关系间的作用。经t检验、阶层内相关和结构方差模型分析，结果发现:(1)夫妻在价值观方面存在相似性，其实夫妻的相似性明显多于随机配对的夫妻;也存在差异，其中丈夫比妻子更看重权力和成就;(2)丈夫报告的双方回避沟通明显多于妻子，但其报告的婚姻满意度和情感表达明显好于妻子;(3)研究不仅验证了以往研究结果，即夫妻越相似，其婚姻质量就越高，而且进一步发现这种关系通过沟通起作用。最后，研究得出结论，伴侣选择应是相似和互补结合的产物，而沟通是夫妻关系的基石。

关键词: 夫妻相似性, 伴侣选择, 价值观, 婚姻质量, 沟通模式

CLC Number:

B849C913

Deng Linyuan,Dai Liqiong,Fang Xiaoyi. The Relationship among Similarity of Couple s Value, Communication Pattern and Marital Quality[J]. Studies of Psychology and Behavior, 2014, 12(2): 231-237.

邓林园，戴丽琼，方晓义. 夫妻价值观相似性、沟通模式与婚姻质量的关系^*[J]. 心理与行为研究, 2014, 12(2): 231-237.

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